By this point they’ve already built up a tolerance for alcoholic drinks, and they can’t get it out of their system without rehab.
Withdrawal symptoms will keep them drinking even if they want to quit.
At the same time I’d started dating my ex, my friend started dating a sober guy.
She said that it was challenging—she wanted a glass of cabernet with dinner now and then—and that the guy didn’t mind if she had one, yet she’d feel guilty if she did. I imagined them sitting around, playing a board game or drinking grape juice with their steak entrée.
In the years since dating my ex, my radar drastically improved.