While being authentic is key, being a pill or a grouch is unlikely to have people salivating to spend an evening with you.
More importantly, negativity is indicative of pain, which, by your 40s, you’ve probably experienced.
And for more great tips, it wouldn’t hurt to brush up on the 40 Best Compliments to Give People Over 40.
Some things never change: You should arrive on time, be present, take a genuine interest in who she is and what she derives meaning from, offer to pick up the tab, and see that she gets cab if she’s going home or stand outside while she enters her home safely.
Don’t be afraid to let your idiosyncrasies show, because no one wants a 100% basic bro. “Lots of people who are married but living as single fool themselves and others into thinking they’re legally single,” says says April Masini, a New-York-based relationship and etiquette expert.